When I entered the business research class,
our teacher was writing something on the board. I quickly settled down and
waved at my girls. The topic today was Qualitative Research. At first the
lecture was interesting until this one irritatingly obnoxious guy started to
speak. “Sir my question is shouldn't I always do Qualitative research in my business
for I want Quality research?” he asked.
He confused ‘Quality’ with ‘Qualitative’
but sadly the teacher didn't quite get his stupid question. I couldn't stay quiet so I tried to explain him that quality has nothing to do with it. And
5 minutes later this guy went “But sir my question is still the same”. Then the
smart guy came up with an awkward example to make his point clear. The example was
if his refrigerator breaks down at his store he should do qualitative research because
it will guarantee quality.
Okay that guy was blind for on the board
the first thing under the Qualitative research was YOU ONLY DO THIS RESEARCH
WHAT YOU CAN’T FIND THE PROBLEM (It is time consuming and very expensive). And this
guy’s research problem is his sales decreased because of a broken refrigerator.
Therefore he thinks he should call experts from all over the world to give
their opinion on it for they will ensure quality in his business. WHAT?! At this
point I felt like throwing my text book in his face and walking out of this mad classroom.
I explained and asked my teacher to write separate
definitions of qualitative and quantitative on the board to clear out his confusion.
The teacher looked at my face and said “Yes, yes you are RIGHT”. Oh GOD! I don’t
need your appreciation focus on this dumb head.
Our teacher wasted one whole hour on his extremely
vacuous rubbish. I explained again but this guy plainly ignored me as earlier. Apparently
he cannot accept intelligent answers from a GIRL. There is a lot wrong with
this man, I think someone should do a QUALITATIVE RESEARCH on this ignorant discriminating fool!
Now he was dragging it, everyone started to
contribute and by that I mean shouting at each other. The time of class was over
but the teacher won’t let us go for he was fascinated with this nonsense debate.
I was finally relieved to walk out of that chaos when my brother came to pick
Well that is one sad true story that I wanted
to share with all of you. And ask your EXPERT opinion on how to deal with
someone like that. Don’t you think knowledge is punishment when everyone around
“You are my strength
sweetheart, you jump I jump” And then when you are halfway falling off that
cliff you find they didn't jump! Opposite is what people always do of whatever they tell us. The wise person with golden advises to change your life is trapped
in his own weaknesses. Yet they somehow set you free only when they give up on
you. Simply to teach you how to fly, it’s just they come in the forms of
miserably corrupt teachers.
People are unpredictable
but one similar pattern that you’d find in them is they never do what they say the
MOST. It’s not limited to just ‘saying’ or ‘actions’ it goes far beyond that.
For instance my family hates cats in the house; they are very clear about it
and have set boundaries for them. One day a stranger BIG cat entered our lawn where
my little kittens were playing, my parents and siblings all ran out to scare
away the bad guy. Whenever there is any threat to my three kittens my family is
out there protecting them while I sit back and enjoy the show.
The friend of mine who
says she ‘forget and forgives’ did the opposite when I made a tiny little
mistake. The person who keeps saying “I NEVER LIE” if they actually acted like so
they wouldn't have to keep saying it. The guy who says he loves his wife… oh
well. Please don’t go crazy with this theory and doubt everyone around you. There
is a fine line between who we are and what we try too hard to make others
believe we are.
The price we pay for great achievements in
life makes us humble for we start to realize we have control over nothing. Now
we know our superpowers have limitations and tons of responsibilities. You
would be amazed how people who talk low about themselves are actually the heroes.
The laziest person around the place sometimes becomes the active leader in the
times of crisis.
This theory has helped me
understand the bigger picture and stay positive in life. I hope it helps you
too. Plus we need to learn ‘who we are’ is precious and golden than who we act
to be. So don’t believe what people say, observe what they do and remember it. Good
thing about feelings is even a child never forgets how someone treated them.
On the other hand you
don’t have to advertise your good traits whatever is beautiful stays beautiful.
We lower our worth when we start to seek approval from others for our wonderful
traits. Just keep doing whatever you are gifted for, the recognition and
promotion comes for free.
Next time you are in the
‘you jump, I jump’ scenario, call for a plane ticket and fly off to a less
I was enjoying my favorite TV show, and eating
marshmallows when the phone rang. It sounded like a horror movie climax before
I realized it’s my friend crying. She had so much to say (in a language I couldn't get a word of) so I just tried to keep up with her.
The part where she ended was “I would give
anything to go back to college”. My friend works in a prestigious organization
and I am so proud of her. She is bright, hard working and a very nice person.
Nice includes her simplicity and how she is always there for others. From here
we can guess what the problem actually is: ‘Haters’.
Second month at her dream job and she is
asking for a psychiatrist. Oh well life is like that. Although I couldn't go brutally
honest RAPPER on her so instead I went ‘Awww baby’.
Then she made me tell her my own embarrassingly pathetic encounters with
my critics. That wasn't a good idea for negative memories only turn into trauma
This is something we all can relate to.
There are always some people constantly making our life more miserable than it
already is. Mostly it is jealousy, competition or no reason; where haters don’t even know why they hate you so
much. One word ‘ignore’. Don’t talk about your haters, don’t think about them. However
be nice to them, not to change their perception of you but simply out of pity. They
can’t help being rude, we can’t help
being nice that’s all.
This world was not made for naive and nice
people. They belong to a place far better than this. They belong to paradise
and will get there shining like diamonds. If your life is hard then you are on
the right track.
I kept talking to her while making tea for my
family and doing other chores around the house. After 1 hour of brainstorming
she finally started to laugh at my lame jokes like always. I told her haters
are only our retarded fans.
The key is to cherish the ones who love you
the same on your success days. They deserve to be on your mind more than
haters. Constantly remind yourself of your loved ones and admirers along with
all the things you are grateful for.
So tell me what creative and positive ways
you have to deal with situations like these? In the comments below give me one
more way that I need to add in my (never) upcoming book ‘101 ways to deal with
your Retarded Fans’!
Fiercely clicking, replying
to comments my friends were posting under a random funny video. With some difficulty
I detached my eyes off facebook when I heard my dad calling.
“Sit here and listen to this” He Point at TV where
some old guy was speaking in a very calm tone. I sat on the opposite coach making
effort to look interested where in my head I was like ‘Papa I was in the middle
of something IMPORTANT!’
The topic was ‘Talent
& Pakistani youth’ and how parents are ignorant of their own kid’s potential.
I don’t recall his exact speech
so just sharing the essence of it.
and the youth themselves start to contribute with whatever talent they were
gifted we can change this country. Only if one of you starts today, never think
you alone cannot make a difference. Prophets were always alone against the
world. ONE man who changed their nations only cause they were POSITIVE,
MOTIVATED and had FAITH in ALLAH.’
That really moved me. He
is a Muslim scholar IRFAN UL HAQ. People go to him to get their problems
solved. He only restores their confidence. This man is so positive and a great
motivation we all Pakistanis desperately need to listen. Unfortunately the word
‘CHANGE’ has become more of a cheesy joke lately in our country. Instead in
reality it takes only you to fix your own life. This way all of us can make our
substantial contribution in the progress.
Pakistani youth is exactly
like Dexter from ‘Dexter’s laboratory’. We all have a secret laboratory our
parents don’t know about or should never know about. Labs where we work hard
and be who are really are. There we are recognized as geniuses, artists, poets,
directors, admins, youtubers, vloggers, bloggers, and what not. In the eyes of
our parents, we’re still worthless than those outdated floppy disks.
We have limited our Deen
to Masjid, to wise and old, when it’s weaved in all aspects of life from the
day we were born. It’s high time we realize that each and every piece of the
puzzle counts. Along with that we need to work in one direction as a team.
Start from fixing the immediate ones, your family.
Or you enjoy being Dexter;
running around in circles in the time of CRISIS. More nerve-racking factor is we
actually have a seriously annoying older sibling exactly like Dee Dee.
I was travelling back home alone when I realized how one of the terribly boring places airports can be. Placing
my handbag on my lap like a lady, I looked for my mobile with delicacy. Smiled
reading an extremely important message from my friend named ‘Telenor’. Forever*coughs*Alone
A few seats away I saw a little boy in his
mid teens, lost in emptiness. He was well dressed but seemed mysteriously
different. “Hi, I am Tayyaba, the famous motivational blogger you must have
heard of.” I introduced making sure everyone around us heard.
He blinked then carelessly replied “Nope”.
I faked a laugh saying “Always the same answer!” My lame attempt at wittiness
went wasted as he continued to ignore me. I was about to give up when he asked what
I write about. Now that’s my favorite topic so I went on and on bragging.
Making it sound like I am THE celebrity whole world is desperately waiting for
outside the next airport. Being me now, laughing carelessly, and talking
not-so-lady-like. However my smile faded when he started to talk.
“I used to cut myself, I still have scars
all over my body” he whispered. At first I thought it was his turn to joke
around. I froze and waited for the cause behind such horrible act. “My parents
used to fight.” He went on, “I started to blame myself for all the chaos, was
too young to understand it all. So I’d cut myself and watch myself bleed,
waiting to die.” Since I got extremely worried he assured me he was fine now for
he plays guitar. He is an artist and his guitar helps him through it. Sadly
from here his eyes started to disagree with his words and he could sense it
too. Then followed the awkward frantic goodbyes and he left.
The extremely outrageous, monstrous, unspeakable
things are always the most common things we humans can relate to. We need to
talk about them no matter how dreadful or disturbing they are. Finding Problem
or asking Question; is the first step towards solutions, peace and success.
It’s a sign of intelligence and consciousness as long as your intentions are
Basic questions like: Why me? Where my
prayers go? Why am I still alive? Why are we here? Why the evil wins here? And
then there are so much more messed up questions in our heads. With an increase
in your intelligence, your problems and questions would also grow.
There is only one way out of this phase:
the Soul needs to be fixed.
You don’t have to grow a beard to
understand Quran Kareem. And for non-Muslims, you don’t have to be Muslim to
find answers to these basic human questions. Goodness, knowledge, wisdom, and
peace don’t come with a price-tag. Quran Kareem holds such an active
communication that it instantly starts to answer questions that just pop in
your head while listening it. It will keep answering all your questions right
there and then. What keeps you from talking
to the ONE who created you? The thirst for knowledge needs to be quenched. Or
else on frustration it leads us to the dig our own graves while we are still alive.
Sunday Morning: I was fast
asleep when I felt a little girl walk into my room and climb up my bed. She
shook my shoulder vigorously in attempt to wake me up. “Go away its Sunday” I
mummer in a slurred voice. I pulled her closer, to stop her. She said “Wake up!”
Her voice sounded too mature for her size. I slowly opened my eyes, to see a
fully grown women smiling at me.
Before I could break free
she stabbed me with something sharp and cold into my ribs! My expressions
changed from smile to confusion, terror, and immense pain! I couldn't breathe.
She yelled, “WAKE UP!” And stabbed me again! I tried to scream but no sound
came out. She kept grinning wide like a psychopath. I woke up before she went
for the third stab… I was in my room all alone, breathing heavy with my heart
It’s amazing how
nightmares can feel so real. What if this life is a dream and whatever we dream of was actually the reality? Anyway since it was Sunday no one was up. I didn't feel like going back to sleep. Thanks to the brief research I did on
nightmares in my psychology class. I recited a few Quran Kareem verses and went
In my research I learned when
a person wakes up from a nightmare, they wouldn't want to go back to sleep. For
the fear that the dream would continue and also it seems too real. Although
this reason is pretty legit but if this person stays up, it will do them more
harm. It leads to sleeplessness that generates stress and anxiety. This in turn
leads to more vicious and regular nightmares in future.
Another amazing thing we
learned was nightmares doesn't only come from stress or depression. People who
are creative and intelligent are more prone to nightmares than anyone else. So even
if the happiest person on this planet gets nightmares why do we call it a sleep
If you think your
nightmares are worse let me tell you this. One day I had a nightmare that was
so messed up, that the moment I woke up, I jumped out of my bed. And ran to
search for my Mother. Ahem, yeah I was 23 years old. My Ami was offering Salat,
so I sat next to her. She found me motionless, with my eyes wide open. For about
45 minutes I didn't say a word.
I think nightmares only
mean we are creative and awesome people. Still these awesome people need to
find the cure. Psychology thought us the causes and that you need to go back to
sleep, but how? Do you think it’s easy to fall back to sleep with a 100% risk
to meet the same demons again?
Here our wonderful religion
Islam teaches us the remedy. Dreams have three categories, first from ALLAH(SWT), second
from the daily life and third from the devil. The nightmare is from the devil so
recite any Surah or do Dikarullah. You
would fall asleep in no time. A beautiful peaceful sleep and no more sleep
Please let me know your
experiences and how you deal with it? Keep smiling!
The only crush won’t stop
talking about their first love. The comforting intelligent best friend never
replies back. A seriously retarded stalker hacked all the social network
accounts. Maid is always on an endless maternity leave during every Final Exams.
Future entrepreneur is stuck in the kitchen making burned cakes. GoCorruptionGo
isn’t actually going anywhere. All the chocolates in the world ENDS in the next few years..!!! And you
think you have problems?
One thing that you learn
the hard way is; life goes on. It’s about time you drag along yours too, for no
one cares. There will be a time when you’d be on your own. However the charm of
living alone lasts for at least five minutes if you are lucky. You probably can
make new friends even if it’s a football, like Tom hanks from the movie “Cast
Away”. WARNING: It can’t google good
times or auto-fill details like old friends.
The point is when life is
a bed of chocolates, strawberries and cupcakes. Someday you’d fall off for the
fact that someone will definitely EAT it.
The key is to thrive,
prosper or in the most simple words just get along. Meanwhile figure out how your weakness gives
you the sustainable competitive advantage over others. For it differentiates
you and makes you stand out. Walt Disney Dumbo
rings a bell? Great lessons are not limited to any source but are always around
Test of life would never
be easy. The severely damaging expectations
departments would never shut down. On the contrary you will always get
everything you sincerely believe in. Like if you believe you will win, half of
the success is already yours. Winner is not the one who works hard but the one
who has the strongest faith.
Therefore there has to be
a place to quench our humans built-in desire for a happily ever after. When you
realize this life is merely a test and your kingdom awaits you! All of your
problems would fade away. Insulted, humiliated, used, taken for granted, left
alone, wrangled by your own expectations. Your grievance, pain, calamity
doesn’t it take you a step closer to the substantial rewards?
Greater problems only mean
you have profound strengths to face it. It’s certainly a remarkable bonus for
you to level up. Thus be grateful that you are honored.
If you find this healing
then read this article out loud to everyone you care for. Let’s be among the
rare ones, who care.